You know the term “hurt people, hurt people?” I never knew what that actually meant until I was an adult. Probably nineteen/twenty years old as I was driving to work, listening to a song. I understood it, people who are hurt, in pain, feel nothing but agony for whatever reason, do not wish to go through this alone or perhaps they don’t understand that they do not need to go through whatever they’re going through alone. I have learned that there are many ways to say things. You can say things with words, body languages, multiple languages, communication, boundaries. My favorite one is time. Time can not only help a person become a better communicator, it can show a person’s true intentions, heal you from within, and teach you to forgive.

I use to suck at forgiving people but time taught me how (in a weird way). I love my friends and family, I am grateful for them. I smile each day and try to let them know how much they mean to me. So, how did time teach me to forgive? Every time I have an argument with a loved one or a disagreement, I storm off. I tell myself “they just don’t understand what I’m going through!” or “what is wrong with them?” or “why would they say that to me?” I get into my own head, telling myself to stay mad at them because they deserve it! Right?

Well, pretty soon I starting imaging them going out to for drive to the store, running errands or to blow off steam, what if they get into a car crash and something happens to them and the last words I said them were “Whatever” or “I don’t care”

I can’t have those be my last words to the people who have always been by my side. I want it to be “Thank you for everything and I love you!” Before I know it I’m rushing back in to find whoever and the anger, bitterness, rage is all gone, all I want to do is be there with them with time we have. We end up talking, laughing and saying thanking for everything and I love you. That is how time has taught me to forgive by reminding me that we are not promised tomorrow but we are promised the days we get to wake up and try again with ourselves and loved ones.